Doing it right is so
important. Yes, I’ve touched on this
theme more times than you care to read but the words, the admonition, the
advice, etc. bears repeating as many times as it takes to have the point become
operationalized.
Nobody can tell ya, there’s only
one song worth singing. In other words,
make your own kind of music (one of my all time favorites by Cass Elliott). That’s right,
own the music, the lyrics, the rhythm and the rhyme. Own the message and believe it. You can be invested or you can go through the
motions.
There are many data points to
consider. My data points include an “N”
of at least one hundred. I did not perform
statistical calculations on the powering nor the predictive translational value
of that number of data points. But I do
know several things I believe to be irrefutable truths. They follow.
Once again owning your
decisions. If you don’t own them nobody
will take you seriously. You’ve got to
not only mouth the convictions, you’ve got to operationalize them. “What does that mean?” It means you need to show people you believe
in yourself in constructive ways.
Beliefs can be unconventional, non-conforming and orphan (in medical
parlance) but they have got to have substance, weight and power. That does not mean you have to shape them
into a cudgel and beat everyone and everything on your path to a pulp.
Wars generate many casualties and
the victor’s celebration is short. Then
reparations begin. You can’t take a scorched earth approach to your
beliefs. Emotional napalm is
destructive. And insisting something is
right may work for you but let me tell you edicts and proclamations aren’t
worth the parchment upon which they are written if there is no consensus.
Translation – if you lead with your
chin you’re going to get hit and hit hard.
Even if you believe your emotional jaw to be rock solid, daring people
to hit you to make a point is like driving through a wall instead of navigating
safely around it. Sure, the obstacle
will not longer stand in your path but the damage to your personal property
will be costly. The same is true with
emotional property. You’ve heard me
lecture (maybe lecture is too strong a word) on the topic.
Helping people to understand,
taking them by the hand and helping them up the little rise in your landscape
(before it rises into a mountain) is inviting and potentially healing. I understand that you want things to happen
on your timeline. Well honey, wake up
and smell the pungent and acrid odor.
That’s the smell of a bridge being burned. There’s a lengthy but emotionally educational
undercurrent to a classic movie, The Bridge on the River Kwai. Alec Guinness teaches a lesson to their
captors and also educates his charges in how to gain respect while giving
respect. I know, he suffers a near
breakdown when he realizes he may be helping his captors beyond what he
intended. But that is a side thought to
consider – know why you are doing something before you undertake. And yeah, understand that you also own the
consequences; so be prepared.
Life is filled with trap
doors. The object is to find the trip
wire so you don’t end up in a black hole.
More to come in tomorrow’s post.
Have a thought-provoking day.
Love and hugs, Nikki DiCaro
** Dedicated to my heart
sisters. You know who you are. I send emotional hugs and prayerful thanks
every day for your unfailing and unconditional love and support. **
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