I don’t understand why some in our
community need to feel they are competing with others in the community. Why must some in the community feel the only
way to get ahead is to put others down?
Try this phrase on for size: “We
are all different in many, mostly wonderful, ways. I’m better than nobody and
nobody is better than me.” I live by
these words. There is nothing useful,
enduring and endearing to be gained by making others feel small, gaining at the
expense of others.
I had a troubling conversation with
a person I thought was a friend; someone who identified as a transgender. I provided, on many occasions, precious time
out of my horrendously busy schedule to talk when it was convenient for this
person. I’m not here to tell you how
busy or how important I am. I’m here to
tell you how disappointing it is to be used, to be compared and to be told by
this person that there was something this person (I refuse to guesstimate on
the appropriate pronoun to use) had over me.
Really? Like we were competing. This person stated “I’m falling behind the
competition but need to catch up. But I
have one thing going for me, I have [purposely left blank] more than you.” After that statement I turned off my hearing
until I was able to tamp down the temper flare.
Competition, seriously? Competition, really? I don't compare and contrast beyond trying to
find ways to improve how I fit into society as a woman. Different transgenders are on different
points on the continuum. That’s their
business. Encouragement is my mantra. I will support and encourage when the
opportunity presents itself. I refuse to
engage in conversation that is destructive.
If you attack one of my friends; then the gloves come off. I have no compunction about stepping into the
breach when necessary. That’s the way I
roll.
So, back to this miscreant and the immature
comment. My perception of this person
has changed significantly. The more I
think about the comment the more I am disappointed that I was misled, I fell
for a façade that fooled me.
When people are relegated to
getting ahead at the expense of others – putting others down – they need to get
a life. Comparisons are for wannabes.
Real people are confident and self-assured and kind to others.
Be free to be yourself and build up
others and they will return the favor.
Love and hug, Nikki DiCaro
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