There’s no denying the inevitable,
right? I know you agree. Even if you don’t the inevitable will intrude
upon you as if welcomed with open arms.
You can run but you can’t hide.
You know it’s true no matter how virulently you refuse.
“Are you trying to pour acid on my
parade?”
No, I’m not trying to ruin whatever
you are enjoying. I have been charged
with reminding you of the obvious.
There’s no need to thank me.
Reading the posts is thanks enough.
Okay let’s shed the frivolity and move to more germane topics such as
voice recognition.
Before you ask, permit me to assure
you this is not a technology column (or row for that matter if you are into
spreadsheets). Voice recognition hits
close to home for those of us who venture into public venues. In order to dispel rumors, this girl gets out
to straight places – Hello! Why wouldn’t
I? There’s no better practice than
living life.
Back to voice recognition. Even for those or us who pass as well as most
CIS girls, the bugaboo is the voice.
Only a select few have the voice to match the body, the sachet, the
non-verbal gestures, etc. Others of us
need to work with professionals to identify the voice that fits us comfortably
while living within the safe limits of vocal chord range. If you are using unproven methods for voice
adjustment be careful not to damage those purveyors of sound.
“How do you know it’s the voice
that gives you away?”
Excellent question. I’ve been the
happy recipient of plenty of “ma’am” references, addressed as “miss” and smiles
and warm advice on clothing while shopping in malls, boutiques, free standing
pad sites, thrift stores, etc. I’ve been
engaged by CIS women of all ages in casual conversation without a hint of
suspicion. My voice can be passable but
not consistently. I know it has betrayed
me on occasion.
Why? Because I’ve seen the reaction, verbal as
well as non-verbal. I may be ditsy but
I’m not dead!
Anyway, thanks a to dear friend and
awesome girlfriend I have the privilege of participating in a transgender speech
therapy course. I completed the second
evaluation today and received good news that I qualified, YAY!!! I have my first homework assignment; to train the vocal chords
without damaging them. The therapist is
a sweetheart; welcoming and supportive.
I am looking forward to learning, practicing and learning more. This is
the last threshold for my going full-time once I disclose to my youngest
boy. Regardless of the outcome (I
believe he will accept because he is loving, understanding and more empathetic
than any male has the right to be) I am in the passing lane.
Right… no left. Never pass on the right unless the left lane
is occupied by someone making “the eventual left”. I’m passing mile markers and slow moving
vehicles that cast a momentary shadow across my path. This too shall pass. No wait, I’ll pass them! See I told you I was ditsy!
Have a wonderful day.
Love and hugs, Nikki DiCaro