Reliability and Friendships

Reliability appears to be something from a bygone era.  Automobile recalls dominate the news while the world financial markets are proving that volatility is not dead.  We’ve become a disposable society.  The resultant fallout will be a sad legacy for the next generations. 

There is one thing that can and should withstand the test of time.  Bonds of friendship and love should be impervious to recalls, volatility and shifting sands of time.  Passage of time should strengthen these connections.  We’ve been down these roads.  Unfortunately some have ended precipitously.  Others faded to black over time; sometimes leaving behind sadness and pain.

We’re not always in control; as much as we would like to think.  If you don’t agree tell me you influenced how you entered the world and whether you were going to experience dysphoria or other things that pointed you in a direction different than the one convention provided.

So what do we do about it?  Do we grieve or do we evaluate and change according to the outcome of considered thought?  There are many ways to express this; some have already been offered.  If any are repeated I don’t believe repetition would be laborious.  Being reminded of the obvious may shake the tree of knowledge encouraging it to shed fruit.

As I transcribe today’s message I think of how different I look outside the trappings of my true self.  In the boy costume I barely recognize myself.  When that happens I fight the urge to rain.  I look to friends.  You’ve all been kind in the way you approach our relationship.  I have many fond memories that turn the threat of tears to smiles of pride.  It’s your strength that gets me past the bramble growing on the fringes of my path.

I’m not sending subliminal messages nor am I sending up flairs of desperation.  Things are excellent on this end; even when unwelcome moments tend to infringe on the reverie of this wonderful life I’ve finally found existed all along.  It was waiting for me to catch up.  My success goes hand in hand with your support, my precious friends.  You’ve all played a role in my birth and maturity.

I trust you will continue to be open about your thoughts, insights and counsel.  These are vital components in the formula of my success.  So let’s continue to be interdependent.  Tell me how I can help and support you and I will take you up on the offer of a tender shoulder and warm hug.

Let’s prove to all onlookers that we have permanence amidst the variability.  We’re solid and strong; enduring whatever adversity may insinuate itself upon us.

Love and hugs, Nikki DiCaro