Wednesday, July 22, 2015

The Perils of Self-Proclaimed Royalty

There has been a significant amount of frustration poured into Facebook posts recently regarding who is better than whom when it comes to the different flavors of feminism in our group.  It takes significant pain for certain people to express feelings.  This must have been building for such an outpouring to occur. 
Not sure why the problem emerged (generally, not this instance); seems as if the lineage is long and unfortunately consistent.  Caste systems, once the prerogative of royalty have morphed into a free society.  Lest we fail to acknowledge, royalty came with obligations including protection and nurturing of those over whom they held genealogical superiority. 
Sadly subcultures must be the culprit – the lightning rod for the problem that has been bubbling below the surface.  Why else would a group within a group consider themselves elite?  Self-proclamation at the expense of others is wrong for so many reasons.
Who gives anyone the right to judge?  And upon what convention is judgment passed?  Make your rules; you know the ones that are pejorative, degrading, exclusionary, destructive and overflowing with negativity, go ahead and see how far that gets you.  Elevating yourself at the expense of others is shallower than a puddle.  If you think you are better than another because you are an HRT-type or you do things a certain way to achieve the end that suits you and that makes you better than others, there is a public square and stockade awaiting you.  Throwing verbal, emotional or psychological stones at others not predisposed to whatever you capriciously consider to be appropriate for a transgender, is nothing short of pitiful.
Real and mature people (a/k/a genuine) don’t run roughshod over others because they think they have a divine right to put someone down.  History is replete with these occurrences.  It’s not limited to our subset of the populace.  Maybe such shortcoming is genetic.  I doubt it.  There’s probably a psychological condition that describes what is not covered by the terms narcissist, sociopath, bipolar, emotionally unstable and so forth.
If you don’t have something kind to say, be the kind of person that keeps that kind of verbiage to yourself.
Remember that what goes up must come down.  And those filled to busting with hot air will eventually float to earth if they don’t burst and crash unceremoniously at the feet of those above whom they erroneously placed themselves.  If you have a problem with reasonable people and you must criticize and judge, seek professional help and by all means get over yourself.
Yes this missive is stern and unforgiving.  I’m returning the favor to the guilty who have cast aspersions upon those in whom I see goodness; innocent people who have the same inalienable rights that are guaranteed by the law of the land.
To my friends and those with whom I have not had the pleasure of a greeting, shake the dust of bad people from your sandals or whatever footwear you enjoy and leave them in the remnants of your departure.  There are oases to discover and enjoy – they are called friends.

Love and hugs, Nikki DiCaro

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