Raven Weekend Spill Over Feelings!

Time flies when you’re with friends.  No sooner did the festivities commence Friday evening and Sunday was here.  Time machines and clocks that make time stand still would be two apparatuses I’ll consider renting to own.  I’m going to check the local rental center.  Better yet, a search of the Internet via my favorite browser may surface the targeted item.

Seriously, time is a premium commodity - enough time to visit with friends there is never sufficiency.  Hopefully friends understand and the next go round will provide more opportunities.  Weighty subjects don’t enable ‘speed catch ups’.  One thing leads to another and the conversation flows like [insert your favorite beverage] sweetened perfectly to your emotional palate.

Ubiquitous communication options enable on-the-go connectivity. Maybe that’s the trick – gap bridging as the alternative.  I know, this girl advocated F2F and/or telephonic communication.  Take what you can get while working to improve your levels and types of engagement.

Raven 24 – Thank you Jane Reynolds and company for making this one of the best Raven weekends of my young career. The weekend was filled with wonderfully powerful emotion – all upbeat and gratifying.  I think it’s liberating to be able to express emotion freely without the worry of appearing weak.  You know how that goes.  For me, I believe it’s the pent up demand to freely express rather than calling it hormonal reaction.  If more people freely expressed genuine emotion from the heart, the world would be a better place.

Much has been written about peace, love and understanding.  Obstacles such as conventionality and conformity create a chasm.  Sometimes stubbornness – the protective shield against engaging in risky seconds – gets in the way of rational repair and maintenance.  When in doubt, build a bridge.  How many times have you diffused a “situation” by utilizing any combination of the PL&U trio?  It works.  They are the lubricant on the gears of progress.  Right, progress towards acceptance.

It’s easy to misunderstand.  Feelings are injured and the injurer and injuree are unfortunately at odds.  Both parties lose.  Misunderstandings are unavoidable; reconciliation is not.  In rare cases where reconciliation is not available promptly, time may heal.  Best to allow emotional distance before reengaging.    Not all wounds can be healed at the first attempt to apply salve.  Some wounds leave scars – reminders of pain outside the tolerance threshold.  Don’t waste energy harboring ill feelings.  That’s energy better invested in constructive ways.  Healing and reconciliation takes all parties original to the unfortunate event to find the middle and commit to get there.  Nothing worse than one party holding firm leaving the other alone at midfield.  That’s a lonely feeling that can hurt more than the original pain.

Put aside any differences that keep you bottled up.  Don’t allow yourself to be restricted, cloistered, inhibited.

Life’s too short.  If you don’t believe me, think back to this past weekend and let me know if you thought there was an overabundance of time during which you accomplished everything and found yourself bored out of your gourd.

Enjoy Tuesday, it only comes once this week.

Love and hugs, Nikki DeCaro