A Tribute to Spouses and Significant Others

There’s a twinkle in your eye; the person responsible sitting close to you.  Shoulders brush together as a playful phrase crosses between you.  Lips blossom into a smile as you realize again how full your life.  Worry, ever present floats around no place to alight.  We have shine, glow, radiance and strength.  Worry doesn’t stand a chance against our united front.

This post is dedicated to spouses and caring significant others.  Special people, limited edition life partners who yearn to understand, diamonds polished to a thousand point shimmer, consummate mates providing support in many ways.  Wonder of wonders they see beauty in us; beauty that crosses the convention divide – conformity overused and misapplied - our loved one is solid as Gibraltar.  These wonderful ladies have perception, vision and patience.  Understanding is concentrated in their psyche.  They love us and support us for who we are.  What we are to them is not explained by a handle invented by society to pigeonhole us, to segregate us, to categorize in order to make us feel different and not for the right reasons.

We return that love and understanding with devotion and adoration.  Pedestals were made for our spouse / caring significant other. They are role models for this judgmental world.  With them anything is possible.  Filled to overflowing we are complete.

Life is meant to be shared.  Life is too short to be without love; without feeling completeness. 

I know; self-sufficiency is also important.  But interdependence feels so right, so energizing.

As one who has stumbled through relationships that once offered promise only to wither under the sun of difference, I know time wasted.  Maybe it wasn’t time wasted.  Maybe it was part of the journey.  No I’m not sad.  Au contraire, I’m ecstatic, ebullient, excited, thrilled and over the moon; filled to overflowing.

“All engines finally firing, Nikki?”

Yes, and burning the pure fuel of love.  Watching for years as acquaintances, friends and others enjoy the support of a loving spouse or significant other I wondered if there were only a few select who are open, understanding, supportive, loving and caring.

When I stopped chasing the elusive butterfly of love my butterfly bush finally blossomed.  Over my flowers fluttered a beautiful butterfly.  My perfect butterfly discovered me.  Why?  How did it happen?  Like a morning flower I gave over to the universe.  I don’t ask; I don’t need an answer.  Yearnings fulfilled, the steps of my journey lighter, fragrant carpet of clover invite as two sets of footprints dance together to music now clearly in tune.

As one who struggled against the struggles I offer thanks and gratitude from a filled to overflowing heart.  I know what soul mate means.  You’ll know it if you don’t already have the yin to your yang in your life.  You’ll know it when unspoken communication passes between you for the first time.  A squeeze of the hand to send assurance; knowing glance across a crowded room; and many other signals that remind you how much someone loves you.  Souls intertwined…

Gotta go… mist forming… overwhelming feelings of love threatening a morning shower of emotion.

Have a glorious day.

Love and hugs, Nikki DeCaro