Cyber Bullying

Dear Readers, this post contains materials not suitable for the faint of heart.  It is NOT directed at my friends.  It is an indictment of cyber bullies in response to damaging statements made to a dear friend under the unsavory cloak of anonymity.

Why is cyber bullying necessary?  Are we a barbaric society that can’t keep a civil tongue in our collective head?  When did we begin to believe that bullying of any kind was not only okay but en vogue?  When does cyber bullying stop?  Maybe a cyber knife to the heart of these cyber bullies will indicate to them that there are severe consequences for taking actions that are caustic, cruel and inhuman.

There is a new level to this despicable, morally reprehensible action.  Anonymous cyber bullying.  Anonymous in this context is another word for cowardice, pre-pubescent immaturity, terrorist, chicken heart, gutless, skulker, wimp, yellow belly, invertebrate and malingerer.

If you have something to say, “adult up” and be accountable for your words and actions.  Don’t throw stones and then run away.  Don’t word bomb someone with verbal napalm from an imposter FaceBook account and then hide.  That makes you nothing more than the coward who plants a bomb in a crowded store and then disappears before the devastation rips the hope from innocent lives.

I’m advocating for people to accept push back when you have something to say, especially something caustic and inflammatory.  You started the battle, don’t start something you don’t have the backbone to finish.

“Why are you ranting Nikki?”

I’ll tell you.   Someone sent nasty personal and hurtful messages to a friend via FaceBook and then hid from detection.  Messages that included condemnation for that person’s normal course life.  Opining destructively when you have not “walked a mile in that person’s shoes” is like watching an episode of Gray’s Anatomy and feeling confident enough to criticize a neurosurgeon’s surgical techniques.

It’s one thing to take umbrage with someone’s opinion – First Amendment protected speech – but it's uninviting to tell people how to live their life (unless they asked for your opinion).  Since when did your pulpit empower you with the knowledge and wisdom of a deity? Words cut, bruise and scar the recipient.  How would you like it if someone pounced on your heart with spiked words meant to cripple you emotionally?  You’d hate it? I thought so.

Not sure how to proceed?  Try dialogue.  Before you draw conclusions without fact try asking a few questions.  Secure answers to the questions burning a hole in your cranium before condemning someone to emotional purgatory.  Being strident with someone because you don’t agree with how they live their lives is borderline psychotic; emanating from insecurity and indicates you are not in control of your life. 

News Flash: If you can’t control your life you certainly cannot hope to control the lives of others.  You’re not a shining example. You are legend in your feeble mind!

In my case if you want to tell me how to live my life start by paying all my bills and providing a healthy daily allowance and I’ll be open to your thoughts.  Otherwise, act like a mature adult and let me confront my accuser.  That’s not only constitutional, it’s also morally correct.

I hope your day is devoid of emotional cowards and you brave every obstacle in your path.

Love and hugs, Nikki DeCaro